There are no "exes" in my life-----so neither should there be in yours. I am having a very hard time with this 'second thing" I don't know how to do it! I have always been "first"....First born, first to graduate, first to move out of the house...and so on..." This is a comparative issue......the second is always compared to the first. First love, first wife, first daughter, first mariage...thr only good thing is "second chances"..........